I wonder, Nate, if being Filipino influences our choices in this matter, and if so, to what extent.
Like many Asian cultures, we place great value on saving face. And that's why I think it's easier for us to turn a blind eye to things and pretend that everything's all right, with most people playing along.
By and large, in contrast, many Western cultures would be more inclined to call loud attention to things that they consider as having gone wrong. Instead of putting on a happy face and stoically enduring, they would favor conflict and confrontation until things reach some sort of resolution.
Miserable awareness... because no matter how inconvenient it gets, it is still better (and liberating) that we know the truth. The good part is, we can make an informed decision out of it. Hence, lesser regrets. Misery, like everything else, does not last forever anyway.
Living inside the bubble of a blissful ignorance is actually... SAD (if you think about it). Once it pops, it will be more miserable when you realized that you've been just a fool all along.
P.S. (hehe) Denial, be it in miserable or blissful state, is where the real challenge sets in. I completely agree with you, rudeboy, about the cultural aspect of how we (Filipinos, gay or not hehe) deal with it. I guess it all boil down on how much we would allow ourselves to be hurt in the process. :)
id rather live in blissful ignorance. siguro more like blissful innocence - thinking that everybody and everything is good.
ReplyDeleteI think we as a species are biased towards that choice rather than the other - something about instinctively avoiding pain and suffering.
DeleteIn many ways, our self-imposed illusions/delusions, ironically enough, help keep us sane.
Am I making sense?
well, why can't it be blissful awareness then?
ReplyDeleteBecause then there would be no difficult choice.
DeleteMy God, Ruddie, I just asked myself this question last night. And I chose miserable awareness. Hence, the break-up.
ReplyDeleteI can't say I would choose that for myself, john stan, but I hope your choice works out for you.
Deletepwede blissful denial? :P
ReplyDeletePuede!
Deletegave you my number ruddie!!!
Delete@ruddie: ooh, something to ponder on.. hmm..
ReplyDeletei'd say there's too much going on both in my life and in my head.. so yeah.. add a tinge of misery, and i'd prolly lose it.. :|
so, i'd chose the former.. :)
I wonder, Nate, if being Filipino influences our choices in this matter, and if so, to what extent.
DeleteLike many Asian cultures, we place great value on saving face. And that's why I think it's easier for us to turn a blind eye to things and pretend that everything's all right, with most people playing along.
By and large, in contrast, many Western cultures would be more inclined to call loud attention to things that they consider as having gone wrong. Instead of putting on a happy face and stoically enduring, they would favor conflict and confrontation until things reach some sort of resolution.
the latter one ...i like challenges :]
ReplyDeleteContrary to what Jack Nicholson bellowed in A Few Good Men, Meowfie, maybe you can handle the truth. :)
Deletemas maigi pang di mo nalang alam atleast you will be spare fr heartache hahaha! Martir!
ReplyDeleteBlissful ignorance it is, Mac.
DeleteMiserable awareness... because no matter how inconvenient it gets, it is still better (and liberating) that we know the truth. The good part is, we can make an informed decision out of it. Hence, lesser regrets. Misery, like everything else, does not last forever anyway.
ReplyDeleteLiving inside the bubble of a blissful ignorance is actually... SAD (if you think about it). Once it pops, it will be more miserable when you realized that you've been just a fool all along.
Good points.
DeleteNot simply idealistic aka "The truth at all cost", but rather, more pragmatic as to the long-term benefits of it.
P.S. (hehe) Denial, be it in miserable or blissful state, is where the real challenge sets in. I completely agree with you, rudeboy, about the cultural aspect of how we (Filipinos, gay or not hehe) deal with it. I guess it all boil down on how much we would allow ourselves to be hurt in the process. :)
ReplyDeletei masochistic and i love pain.
ReplyDeleteso i choose the latter.
May it be worth it, Mr Green Thumb.
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